“Momma Drama”

I’ve been fascinated by the media drama that resulted from Democratic strategist Hilary Rosen’s comment that Ann Romney “never worked a day in her life.” While I don’t condone the personal attack on Ann Romney or think that stay at home “Lululemon” moms do nothing, I have a strong opinion on this as someone who was raised by a very hardworking mom.  This and a recent conversation I had on parents who really steer the path of their children’s lives early on (getting them into the top pre-schools, etc.), got me thinking…does the fact that one is raised by a working mom or stay-at-home mom who might be more hands on in steering their lives influence their success-level in life?

As I mentioned, my mom was very hard-working  and passed on that same work ethic to me, but she wasn’t the PTA mom and our house wasn’t the one where everyone congregated while fresh baked cookies were in the oven. I went to public schools all my life until I attended Fordham University (a private school) and I think I turned out alright. BUT what if my mom didn’t work so much and had the financial resources to really “groom me,”  would it be CJ-R (as in “Robinson”) Communications on the door?  I’m guessing that French feminist philosopher Elisabeth Badinter, author of recently released The Conflict: How Modern Motherhood Undermines the Status of Women, which argues that over parenting is holding women back, would scream NO!

Honestly, I don’t think it matters. While I do think upbringing plays a role in how we develop into adulthood, I also feel we are the masters of our own destiny. If I had to choose, I’d say I want to be a mom that brings home the bacon and cooks it, but life happens and if I can’t do that, I’ll be a guiding force in my kids life regardless. . . just like my mom was for me. What do you think? Take the poll below. CJP

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2 comments ““Momma Drama””

As the husband of an amazing stay at home mom who is also working to start her own small business, I think this debate is getting bogged down in the semantics. Raising kids is work, all you need to do is look at all the poorly behaved children around you to see the parents who performed poorly at this job. Only, there’s nobody with the authority to fire you for being a bad parent. Whether a mother is a hard-working professional like Josette’s was, or a stay at home Mom like Ann Romney, they have a responsibility to raise their kids in a thoughtful and supportive manner. That’s the job that matters the most.

I was raised by a stay at home mom, but in no way was I coddled or fed from a silver spoon. My mother taught me to be a dedicated, hard worker, as well as a caring and loving individual. And, so did my father, who was a pilot and was rarely home. I think the big difference is that my parents both got to do what they loved, and it was evident in the way they did it. My mother had wanted to be a mom, and luckily, my father was able to financially support us so that she could stay at home with us. If my mother had wanted a career outside of the home, maybe she wouldn’t have been as passionate about “only” raising children, and maybe she wouldn’t have 4 adult children with jobs and degrees and other various successes in life. (My mother went on to also care for 53 foster children, and counting. Clearly this is her passion). It is my belief that attitude going in has a huge impact on the outcome of the product, whether that be a child or press release. People who want to raise intelligent, independent, successful children can do so from anywhere.

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